I spent too many years listening to people who told me “you’ll never do that” or “yeah right, I’ll believe it when I see it”. Once someone gets to know you, they will hold you to their preconceived notions of you. How do you change yourself for the better if nobody will give you the credit for trying to? It took me a long time to learn that I was in charge of my own decisions.
Every time I would tell someone my goals, they would downplay it. For someone like me, that was toxic. I was depressed and lacking motivation. The doubt fueled my desire to prove everyone wrong though, and I discovered that I had more fight in me than I had realized. I didn’t HAVE to deal with condescending people anymore. I didn’t HAVE to settle for mediocrity.
Is everything perfect now? No, but I am making strides towards my goals. I can see the light at the end of the tunnel, and I’ll be damned if anything gets in my way.
I will still hear the drumbeat of the naysayers. They will say, “Took you long enough”, or “It’s about time”. And they are right. It did take me long enough, and it is time. Because I don’t need anyone’s approval of how I choose to live my life. I will do what I want to do.
Do not EVER let anyone tell you what you will or will not do. Do not be pigeonholed into the generalizations other people have of you. You can change anytime you want, and it’s for damn sure up to you.